Life Lesson - Pressure

Dear You Know Who

Pressures in life can be absolutely shit - no doubt. You felt pressure just after you were born - oh dear! I am cold! How do I get warm!, you felt pressure at school - am I doing good enough? am I talking too much? is my hair colour okay? You felt pressure last night when you realised you hadn't done the work you were supposed to do and you had to finish it, even though you were so very tired and wanted desperately to feel the warmth of bed.

There are many different type of pressure. Personal pressure you put on yourself, pressure people put on you to offer something, be someone or to just help them -  and pressure from society and the world to be what they want you to be. It's almost a fact of life - at the start, anyway. Until you can stand on your own two feet, live on this earth individually and make your own mind up.

I think the only real pressure that counts is the one you put on yourself. Are you happy? If not, you feel a little self-pressure to change things to be happy. Are you sad? If you are, then you feel a little self-pressure to try and escape those dark feelings. Are you where you want to be in life? etc etc - I could ask a million questions, here. See what I mean about self-pressure? It's the internal questioning of where you are. The gut feeling language.

Self-pressure is our own way of leading ourselves to a fulfilled life, I think. External pressure can take us off that track a multitude of times a day. External pressures need to be analysed to see whether they have a positive or negative impact on your life. Don't accept them just because it's your friend, your loved ones or your government telling you that's the ways things are and should be. Always question the pressure.

And always keep your self-pressure in check, my love. Don't be too hard on yourself. How do you know if you're being too hard on yourself? Easy - when you don't think you're good enough or doing good enough. As, at the end of each day you live, you've lived and hopefully lived well and tried your best.

If you've tried your honest best there's nothing more that should ever be asked of you - by anyone, including yourself.

Finis,
Love Ness